What’s the Difference between Compassion and Sympathy? By Kay Urlich
In The Structure of Energy Fields each field matters; each part holds its own space and is an integral step into a much larger picture.
All fields have defining traits such as compassion, or sympathy which affect our personality and how we run our life. They have substance and value for the simple reason that every action we take (or don’t take for that matter), is a living force that produces results: Every aspect of an Energy Field is taking us somewhere.
The question is – where are they taking us?
Some traits appear to be interchangeable; they seem to be much the same. For instance the general meaning of Compassion is described by The Collins Paperback Dictionary as follows:
n. a feeling of distress and pity for the suffering or misfortune of others.
The same book describes Sympathy as:
n. understanding of others problems; compassion.
They seem similar don’t they? However, in terms of substance they have distinctive living forces which lead to vastly different outcomes. The more you go into living forces the more you need to define their deeper meaning.
In fact, it might pay to check your map because without realising it, the forces of life are moving you right now.
Similar to approaching a fork in the road it pays not to drift into it; to double-check where you are, and understand that the next step you take might not lead to where you want to go. You could find the track you are on leads to disastrous social events – some that have no end.
For instance differet traits come from different fields. Drifting into sympathy (in energy field terms), you would find it is an offshoot of the lower-right energy field of Nurturing:
Sympathy is umm… sympathetic. Being sympathetic is an aspect of nurturing; it is a loving and caring part of understanding, of soothing or teaching those who are weakest or most vulnerable in society.
But it has a negative side, a form that is disempowering and leads to collusion, judgement, and justification.
For instance, feeling sympathy for victims during the Truth and Reconciliation Commission trials was understandable. South Africa was facing the terrible task of bringing justice and healing to an indigenous black population. To people who were suffering the aftermath of a violent history of racism, and bloodshed.
So, who wouldn’t have sympathy for a ravished people who had endured such misery? Who wouldn’t sympathise with their suffering - who wouldn’t care? And who wouldn’t step onto the path of revenge against the perpetrators of such terrible and systemic brutality?
Many people would feel justified in taking strong retaliatory action. That righting wrongs through an avenging and merciless justice system would be a great thing to do, right?
Not so for Archbishop Desmond Tutu. He thought otherwise. He chose the track of compassion:
Compassion comes from the upper-right-energy field;
which ‘holds a space’ of higher awareness.
Following is an overview of No Future without Forgiveness by Desmond Tutu.
South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission was a pioneering international event. Never had any country sought to move forward from despotism to democracy, both by exposing the atrocities committed in the past, and achieving reconciliation with its former oppressors. At the center of this unprecedented attempt is Archbishop Desmond Tutu, who says “ that true reconciliation cannot be achieved by denying the past. But nor is it easy to reconcile when a nation "looks the beast in the eye." Rather than repeat platitudes about forgiveness, he presents a bold spirituality that recognizes the horrors people can inflict upon one another, and yet retains a sense of idealism about reconciliation. With a clarity of pitch born out of decades of experience, Tutu shows how to move forward with honesty and compassion to build a newer and more humane world.
The wisdom of compassion shone through when Desmond Tutu held a space from a more conscious aspect of the energy field structure which understands that: What is done is Creation in Action. Creation is viewed from this field as neither good, nor bad – it is in allowance of all aspects of energy in action; it is full in the Knowledge that we came here to create.
It is also a place of Awakening to higher consciousness, where we can disentangle ourselves from some of the stuff we have created. Moreover, that if we do not become more aware of our actions, we will continue to cause more suffering.
Compassion holds a space for transformation and for healing.
Gaining awareness in this field means we become more conscious. By understanding our own behaviour without judgement, we gain the ability to transform its energy.
“We can’t change the past, we can only release the energy that attaches us to it.” Excerpt from The Structure of Energy Healing
A clear understanding of the living forces of compassion means Knowledge of Transformation – no judgment, no collusion - it is free of right and wrong. We understand. And we are wiser for understanding our own suffering and the suffering we have inflicted on others.
But - we do not give it more energy – we take responsibility for our past actions and support forgiveness.
Only then can we disengage from the past.
The deeper meaning of Compassion is that we Hold a Space for healing the planet – for healing ourselves and others. Knowing that the living forces of what we do, what we think, and how we act now matters in changing the global paradigm.
MORE BOOKS by KAY URLICH available at www.kayurlich.com
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The Structure of Energy Healing http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0068A9N7C
Soul-Mate or Soul-Inmate http://amazon.com/dp/B008EGCUWI
MEN: Are They The Biggest Problem In The World? http://amazon.com/dp/B00658O0K